Your title has no impact on your identity!

Before you were a mom, professional, or CEO, and before you grabbed any other title, you had an identity.


Even as our titles change, we still hold on to our identity, because our identity is not part of how we spend our time. Our identity is WHO we are!

Who are you? … But first, what are you NOT!

You are not your title, job, things, house, or relationships.

What’s left is essentially who you are!! 😏😏


Rationally speaking, we all have a “to be”, a “to do” and a “to have”, and so frequently we get these mixed up.

To be: This is who you are and who you want to become.

To do: This is what you do and what you want to do.

To Have: These are generally physical items that we have or want to have.

Following, chasing, and being charismatically focused on a our to do and to have, will always leave us feeling lost, because life changes and with it, jobs are left and items lost.

If you have ever had an identity crisis or if you have been or are confused about what your next step is, what your purpose is, or why you were born, you may have misplaced your identity in what you were doing, what you had, and what you were getting.

In Search of You

The search for our identity often feels like a 3D maze with stairs, tunnels, and the endless corridors that send us around in circles. πŸ’™πŸ’™That is of course only true if we don’t know what we’re looking for!

Finding ourselves really is less complicated than believe.πŸ’™

🀣And contrary to popular belief, a hobby can be part of the path, but it is not the destination!

Who we are is very much tied to our purpose, and our purpose is tied to why we are alive, so it is the straightest path towards figuring out who you are! And since we may discover personality traits that we have adopted that may not sync with our purpose, the most important reality will be who are we going to become.

A Quest of Passion

If this seems vague, here are some easy steps to get you started:

  1. πŸ’₯πŸ’₯ List the hobbies, classes, events, and activities that you enjoy, even if the last time you enjoyed them was 10+ years ago!
  2. πŸ’₯πŸ’₯ List why you enjoyed these activities as well as why you did not like these activities. Be specific and honest. Did you enjoy that class because of the curriculum or because you were able to get the professor off topic!
  3. πŸ’₯πŸ’₯ Notice the similarities in your list. You enjoyed video games, social studies, and debate because people left you alone, or perhaps you enjoyed chemistry, traveling, and dating because it was always an adventure.
  4. πŸ’₯πŸ’₯ Make the distinction that enjoying certain people does not mean that you necessarily enjoyed that activity. Also keep in mind that “extrovert” and “introvert” labels are tied to where you refuel, not by whether or not you “like” people!
  5. πŸ’₯πŸ’₯ Choose a couple of items on your list and try them out. Sure, roller skating might be difficult, so maybe you sit in the rink. You may realize that the things you liked most were the lights and music.

The connection between your passions and your purpose may be easy based on this exercise, but not for all. Nonetheless, articulating your passions is instrumental in figuring out who you are and you next step!


For more than a to do guide, I invite you to connect with me. We can jump on a call, but if you’re not quite sure, find me on facebook. I look forward to connecting!!

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